A lot rides on a first date. It can be the start of a magical love story, or a bad memory you can’t wait to forget. That’s why as well as making a good first impression, it’s super important to ask the right questions.
All too often girls are left disappointed or disheartened by the lack of depth or interest shown to them on the first date. Every girl not only wants to feel special, but that the person opposite her is really taking an interest in her life, hobbies and main interests.
Asking the right questions from the start is important in finding out whether you are both compatible and share the same views in life. This saves valuable time and energy, and can save unnecessary heartache in the future!
That is why we have taken the time to comprise the top ten questions to ask a girl on the first date, guaranteed to not only sweep her off her feet, but discover if she is the ‘one’ for you much quicker!
1. What are you most passionate about in life?
People love talking about their passions. It’s that moment when you see her face light up and the excitement grow in her voice. You won’t be able to forget it too quickly.
Watching someone talk about their passions is not only very attractive, it also lets you know what she cares about most, and whether you share those passions too.
2. What are your biggest fears?
This is quite a deep question to ask and allows her to be vulnerable with you. Providing that safe space for her to answer openly and honestly can create a deeper connection, and allow her to feel more secure towards you, which is a big plus!
3. How would your closest friends describe you?
This question gives you an insight into her closest friendship group, and let’s face it you can always tell a lot about a person by who their closest friends are. Not only does it tell you how they view her, but also how she would describe her own personality.
4. What makes you laugh?
It’s always good to know what makes a girl laugh as there’s nothing better than getting that all important laugh on the first date! It also shows you what kind of humour she has, and if it matches yours.
5. Where did you grow up, and what’s your family like?
You can tell a lot by a person’s upbringing and how this has affected their views of relationships as an adult. If family is an important factor to you in a relationship, this question is a good chance to get an insight into her family dynamics and her own personal relationship with them.
6. What’s on your bucket list?
Not only is this a great conversation starter, but it really gives you the chance to see a different side of her personality, what interests she may have or want to learn, places she may want to travel to, and things she wants to accomplish in life.
It’s a great question to spark some good conversation as well as really getting to know more about her.
7. What’s your biggest pet peeve/deal-breakers in a relationship?
This is good to know from that start. A huge compatibility test is what deal breakers she may have. For example she may refuse to date a smoker, and whilst you enjoy a cigarette or two a day, you’re clearly not the man for her, so cut your losses short and nip it in the bud sooner rather than later.
8. What’s your most valuable possession?
This question tells you a lot about your date and what her priorities and main pursuits are in life. It could be a photograph. It could be a pair of shoes she used her first paycheck to buy. It could be a rock from her favorite family beach holiday. Whatever, it is sure to tell you a lot about her!
9. What are your favourite toppings on a pizza?
It might sound like a bit of a silly question, but it can actually tell you a lot. It tells you what kind of palette she has, and if it matches yours, if she’s adventurous with her food, and if she likes pineapple on a pizza, which could be a big no no for some.
10. What do your Saturdays’ usually look like?
What a person likes to do in their down time can tell you a lot about them. If she likes to spend her days off working then she could be very career-driven or a bit of a workaholic. If she likes to go to art galleries and museums that she is clearly very cultured and loves to learn new things. Or maybe she likes lazing around at home in front of the TV till it’s time for work on Monday.
This question is key to seeing whether your lives fit together or you’re completely different with how you like to spend your time.
These questions are a sure way to see if you guys have enough in common, and if she is what you are looking for in a girl, before asking for that all important second date…